Making the jump from dating to starting a relationship is exciting. It’s also a big deal. But you have to keep in mind the following factors because things are about to get serious, and seriousness involves having a talk about specifics.
It’s Good To Take Things Slow: Some people may disagree with this, but I truly believe that it’s good to take things slow. Some people get so caught up in their feelings that they rush everything. We’ve found that taking things slow makes things more interesting and also keeps you both from getting bored.
Compromise Is Key: Compromise is SO important in a relationship. If one or both of you are not willing to do something you don’t want to do once in a while, things are never going to work out.
…But You Can’t Forget About Yourself: Yes, there will be a lot of times where you need to compromise. But that doesn’t mean YOU need to compromise all the time – your partner has to also! You need to find the balance between doing what’s right for you and what’s right for your relationship.
It’s Not That Big Of A Deal If He Calls Someone Else Cute: We’re all human, and you can’t expect your boyfriend not to think other girls are attractive. If you don’t become okay with that, it means you’re not confident in yourself – and it’s going to take a toll on your relationship. Don’t take it so personally. If he says another girl is cute, he’s not saying you’re not cute or that he wants to be with her.
Sometimes You’ll Feel Bored and Restless: Even in the happiest relationships, you will sometimes feel a little bored and restless (especially after a few years). Even if you can’t imagine life without your sweetie, you will sometimes wonder what it’s like to be single. You’ll even miss it a little. That’s okay! You don’t need to feel guilty or horrible for that. It happens.
You Need Your Friends: We know that your boyfriend is your new best friend, but please don’t get rid of your girlfriends altogether. You NEED your friends, no matter how happy you and your BF are together. When for some reason he will not be around, you will have nothing to do!
Date Nights Are Important: Try not to get stuck in the routine of watching TV and eating snacks in bed every single time you guys hang out. You need to have date nights at least once a week where you do something fun and different. They don’t have to be complicated! Sometimes go to the movies, sometimes just a new restaurant, and sometimes something more exciting. Just get out there!
You Absolutely Can’t Be Too Dependent On Each Other: Dependency might seem romantic and sweet, but it’s not. It will ruin your relationship. If one or both of you are too dependent on the other person, you’re going to drive yourselves crazy. Make sure you are your own person, even when dating someone.
You Can’t Change Someone: We know you probably hear this all the time, but really listen: you cannot change someone, no matter how much you want to. People are who they are, and they will only change if they want to.