New Year has just kicked in and with that the NY resolutions have also set in. But they have a tendency to be forgotten as soon as they’re made! So instead of thinking in terms of resolutions, it’s a great time to set goals for 2017. And it’s not just for yourself — it’s a great time to set some real goals for your relationship too. New Woman shares 7 game changer relationship goals here.
1. Be Actually Happy Together: Make sure you’re happy together, rather than just being together. Each partner should recognize what makes him or her happy and strive to find that element with the other as well as alone. Be self-reflective every day and focus on how to make it a happy relationship.
2. To Do Something New Once A Month: It doesn’t matter what it is, but make it new. A new restaurant, a new city, a new activity— even a new sex position— just commit to mixing it up. When you try new things together you are creating shared experiences that are new and exciting. That shared excitement is a way to have both closeness and stimulation, which is a great combination for sparking things back up.
3. To Keep Remembering What You Love About One Another: No matter how annoyed or angry you can be with your partner — and that’s fair, nobody’s perfect— you need to able to focus on the positive. Remind yourself why your partner, and remind yourself often.
4. To Have Regular Date Nights: The reality is that in long-term relationships, couples drift apart mostly because of the absence of romance. Remember, going over bills and choosing paint colors for walls is not going to keep your relationship fresh. It doesn’t have to be a flowers and a movie. You should give it your own twist, but just make sure it happens.
5. To Find A Way To Give Back: Make sure you’re doing something to give back together. Find a cause you both care about to donate too or volunteer opportunities to take part in and make it a goal to help others.
6. To Show Your Appreciation For Each Other Every Damn Day: Even when it’s over something small, the recognition is good to hear. Being appreciative is good for connecting with your partner and staying positive, so it’s doubly important.
7. Support Each Other’s Separate Goals: Whether it’s your partner’s career change or you taking grad school classes at night, make sure you’re each setting individual goals and encouraging each other to reach them, rather than doing everything as a pair.
It’ll make you stronger as a couple — and isn’t that the best kind of relationship goal of all?