New relationships are equal parts fun and terrifying: you’re super excited to get to know someone but you’re also low-key terrified that something will get effed up along the way. New Woman finds out the common mistakes that almost everyone makes in a new relationship also tells you why you should stop making them.
Not respecting his or her personal space: Spending all your free time together might seem like the sane thing to do right now, but you also need to give and get some space of your own in return. No matter how the relationship shapes up, you do need to give your own self-priority, and not just spend every waking minute together.
Cutting off from friends and family: You are happy and you want to be together all the time, but that doesn’t mean you need to cut your friends and family out. You can be in a relationship and still have your own set of friends and family that you continue giving priority to. Remember they were here first …
Not accepting the problems: The start of the relationship is the worst time to have a fight because arguments mean that not everything is perfect. While you may like to keep up the pretence of living the perfect life just a little longer, arguments and problems are part of the relationship. Instead of brushing them aside or ignoring them, acknowledge them and work towards solving your differences early on.
Passive-aggressive behaviour: Men generally function better when you are upfront and tell them exactly what is bothering you. Instead of staying angry, and causing yourself hurt, tell him what exactly is wrong and get it done with. Don’t fall into the routine of passive-aggressive behaviour where you feel hurt and sad and he has no idea what went wrong.
Trying to change each other: Yes maybe some of your habits will change now that you are in a relationship but expecting the other person to change and fit into your definition of perfect is just not happening. You need to accept each other for who you are instead of trying to change things.
Comparisons to the ex: Whether you are comparing yourself to his ex or him to your ex, it’s harmful either ways. There is a reason both of you are out of those relationships so it’s best to not compare what you have with this person to what you had in the past.